Once again, I am linking up with Kelly’s 7 Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.
I was planning on writing about something else, but then life happened. And while it’s mostly happening to someone else, it’s still weighing heavily on my heart.
Someone I care deeply about is going through a particularly hard time, and just admitted their child to the hospital. At this point we don’t know for how long, or even what to expect, but thankfully it is not life threatening. I can only imagine the abject fear, sadness, and utter helplessness my friend is feeling, because I am feeling all those things, too, and it’s not even my child. Especially helpless. Because there’s absolutely nothing I can DO to help. And I’m a doer.
So as I thought about this and prayed about this, I started to string together a super-quick, completely obvious list of things I actually CAN do. Just to remind myself.
Duh. Pray. Pray without ceasing. Always, always begin and end with prayer.
If you can, call up your favorite prayer warriors to pitch in as well. At times my email and Facebook feeds are a steady stream of prayer requests, and I think it’s one of the coolest things about social media. If it’s a little personal, you don’t have to say who, and you don’t ask to say why. Just ask for friends to pray for a special intention.
2. Go To Your Mother for Help
Mary. She’s a mom. She gets it. She gets ALL of it.
Mary, Mother of God, pray for us.
3. Look to the Intercession of a Saint
In this case, I’m going to St. Gianna Molla, who was not only a mom, but a pediatrician as well. I had forgotten than until I looked it up just now. Saint G … you’re up. Could you pray for us?
4. Ask what you CAN do
Sometimes just being asked “Can I do anything to help?” is a comfort. In this case, I am 1000 miles away, and it’s not like I could let myself into the house and get the pile of laundry sorted. But I did send a text asking “Is there anything at all I can do” and I hope it was a comfort.
5. Send a card
We are on the road today, but will be home tomorrow afternoon. Job one for me is to send a sweet card with a little note. I have a stockpile of them under my desk (and in my desk, and in the bookshelf.) A dear friend of mine showed me years ago the power of a little card sent through the mail, with a stamp and everything, to make a pretty crappy situation a tiny bit better, just for a little while. So that’s what I’ll do.
6. Make them smile
A text message with a silly meme or a little joke. Asking “how are you doing TODAY?” Even some heart and flowers emojis. Just a little electronic love so they know someone is thinking about them.
7. Pray some more
Because, always, begin and end in prayer.
This list is actually more for me than you, my friends out in blog-land. But maybe someone else needs to be reminded of all we can do when we can’t do anything. And I can do that, too.